A Permanent Change of Station (PCS) move brings unique challenges for military families, especially when children are involved. Moving to a new home, adjusting to different schools, and making new friends can be overwhelming for kids. However, with the right strategies, resources, and a structured approach, families can ease the transition and help their children adapt more smoothly.
This guide provides practical tips for supporting children during a PCS move, from discussing the move in an age-appropriate way to maintaining routines and finding resources that can help with the adjustment.
Talking to Your Children About the PCS Move
Communication is key when preparing children for a move. The way you present the transition depends on their age, emotional maturity, and personality.
Toddlers and Preschoolers
- Keep explanations simple and positive. Use reassuring phrases such as, “We are moving to a new house where we will all be together.”
- Use visuals like picture books or maps to help them understand the move.
- Maintain routines as much as possible to create a sense of security.
School-Aged Children
- Encourage open conversations. Ask them how they feel about the move and validate their emotions.
- Get them involved. Let them help pack their toys or choose decorations for their new room.
- Visit the new school together (if possible) to make the transition less intimidating.
Teenagers
- Acknowledge their concerns. Leaving friends and familiar settings can be difficult for teens, so be patient with their emotions.
- Highlight new opportunities. Talk about extracurricular activities, sports teams, or special programs at their new school.
- Encourage social continuity. Help them stay in touch with old friends through video calls and visits.
Helping Children Adjust to Their New Environment
Once you arrive at your new duty station, helping children settle in quickly can make a significant difference in their adjustment.
1. School Transitions
- Research schools early to ensure a smooth transition.
- Connect with School Liaison Officers on base to get assistance with transfers and educational continuity.
- Meet with teachers and counselors to discuss your child’s needs.
2. Making Friends and Finding Activities
- Encourage children to join sports teams, clubs, or extracurricular activities.
- Look for youth programs at the installation’s community center.
- Attend local events to help kids meet peers and feel part of their new community.
3. Establishing Familiar Routines
- Keep mealtimes, bedtime routines, and family traditions consistent.
- Set up their room with familiar toys, bedding, and decorations to create a sense of stability.
- Plan family outings or game nights to maintain a sense of togetherness.
Resources for Military Families During PCS Moves
Several military-specific programs provide support for families navigating PCS moves with children.
1. Military Child Development Centers (CDCs)
- Offer high-quality childcare and early education programs.
- Visit MilitaryChildCare.com to find local options.
2. Relocation Assistance Programs
- Available through Military and Family Support Centers at installations.
- Provide workshops, counseling, and transition resources.
3. School Liaison Officers (SLOs)
- Assist with school transfers and education-related questions.
- Act as a bridge between military families and school administrators.
